Advice to My Younger Self

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At a recent panel I was on, the moderator asked the panelists to share advice with the college students in the audience. Essentially she was asking “what advice would you give your younger self?” I thought about the question for a brief moment and offered the following advice…

Trust your gut. Yes, I know it sounds cliche, but it’s true. In my nearly 30 years of living, my gut has never steered me wrong. That visceral feeling you get when faced with a tough decision is often your instinct. Don’t get in your own way.

Treasure your tribe. Your squad, your besties, your true blues … no matter what you call them, love them like you mean it. I am who I am today because of the fierce women (and men) who’ve supported me along the way. These are the people who push me to be greater, but also recognize when I’m pushing myself too hard. They’re my ride-or-dies and I’d be nothing without them.

It’s okay to say “no.” It’s a full sentence. It’s not selfish, it’s self-care. As a recovering people-pleaser, I’ve struggled with this more than anything else (well, this and my neurotic perfectionism).

But throughout the years, I’ve learned that saying “no” to something gives me the chance to say “yes” to something I actually want to do, whether that’s spending quality time with myself or catching up with loved ones. It’s about guarding my energy.

What advice would you give to your younger self? Let me know in the comments!

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  • June 1, 2017, 1:15 pm  Reply

    Found your blog through the (Net)Work B*tch newsletter! Loving that last piece of advice: “It’s okay to say ‘no’. It’s a full sentence.” I’m so conditioned to cushion a ‘no’ with unnecessary prefaces or explanations: “I’m so sorry, but I can’t do X because…” or “Please don’t think I’m rude, but…” You’re right. ‘No’ IS a complete sentence that serves us as individuals with the right to guard our energy and use it the way we want.

    • L'Oreal
      June 4, 2017, 11:32 pm

      Hi Alicia, thank you so much for checking out my blog and leaving a comment! I’m so happy that this post resonated with you. Even though I mention it here, I often have to remind myself that “no” IS a complete sentence. It’s so important to guard our energy, because if we don’t, no one will!

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